DEFINITION: Sexuality is sexual activity, involvement, or interest. For the believer, sexuality as it was intended is to be is governed by biblical standards.
FACTS ABOUT SEXUALITY:
The original purpose of sex was for reproduction. After God created the first man and woman, God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it” (Genesis 1:28).
Sex is intended to be within the confines of marriage, one man with one woman in a lifetime commitment: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). According to Hebrews 13:4, the marriage bed should be kept pure. Sexual relationships outside of marriage are sinful. Proverbs 5:18-19 speaks of “rejoicing” with your mate.
Sexual desire is not sinful. It is a natural desire, but it must be directed and contained within the confines of marriage as it is defined biblically.
DEALING WITH SEXUALITY:
Confess sexual sins. If you have engaged in pre-marital sex, homosexuality, adultery, fornication, incest, molestation–any type of sexual sin–you must confess and repent of your sin. Ask God to forgive you and deliver you from unholy sexual desires.
Break any sexual relationships that are outside of the confines of marriage. Any flirtatious, adulterous, homosexual ties must be broken. Even if a relationship has not yet been consummated by intercourse, a deep emotional tie will eventually lead to sexual violations. Break all sinful emotional and physical relationships.
Eliminate things that stimulate your sexual passions including sensual films, books, magazines, movies, music, pictures, the Internet, etc.
Recognize that your body belongs to God. It is not your own to do with as you please. It is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). You should treat it as you would a church sanctuary.
Dedicate yourself to abstinence. Determine that you will not engage in any sexual relationships outside the confines of marriage.
WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SEXUALITY:
God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28)
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. (Proverbs 5:15)
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer–may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19)
He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12)
Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. (Romans 1:24)
Since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. (Romans 1:28)
Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. (Romans 6:13)
Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone to obey him as slaves, you are slaves to the one whom you obey–whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness? (Romans 6:16)
Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness. (Romans 6:19)
Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. (Romans 13:13)
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:15-20, NKJV)
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)
Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more. (Ephesians 4:19)
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. (Ephesians 5:11-12)
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)
Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. (James 1:21)
Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire. (Jude 1:7)
(See related topics of “Adultery”, “Promiscuity”, “Homosexuality”, and “Incest” in this database.)