DEFINITION: Communication is the act of giving or exchanging information through speech, writing, various forms of media and the arts, or through a common system of signs or behavior.
FACTS ABOUT COMMUNICATION:
The most important communication is that between God and man. God communicates through His Word and the gifts of the Holy Spirit such as prophecy and teaching.
The Holy Spirit communicates to convict us of sin (John 16:7-11) and to guide us into all truth (John 16:13).
Our primary mode of communication with God is prayer. In prayer, we speak with God and He speaks to us.
God has given you the ability to communicate. He has also declared that you will give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word you have spoken (Matthew 12:36).
Your tongue is powerful. The Bible says it has the power of life and death in it (Proverbs 18:21). Your own words can be a snare to your soul (Proverbs 18:7).
Your mouth, speaking God’s Word, expedites the work of angels. The angels of God are released or hindered to work in your behalf by the words that come out of your mouth. Hebrews 1:14 reveals that angels are “ministering spirits” sent from God to minister in behalf of the heirs of salvation. They are released by God to minister when you speak God’s Word instead of murmuring and complaining (Psalm 103:20).
The tongues is difficult to control. James 3:1-3 explains that the tongue is impossible to tame, apart from the Holy Spirit. The Bible compares the tongue to a fire (James 3:5); a world of iniquity (James 3:6); a beast that needs taming (James 3:7-8); a fountain of either fresh or bitter water (James 3:11); a tree bearing either good or evil fruit (James 3:12); an unruly evil (James 3:8); deadly poison (James 3:8); a sharp razor (Psalms 52:2); a sharp sword (Psalms 57:4; 59:7); a poisonous serpent (Psalms 140:3); and a deep pit (Proverbs 22:14).
What you speak comes out of your heart. If your heart is filled with negative thoughts–hatred, anger, jealousy, pride, bitterness, and strife–that is what will come out of your mouth. If your heart and mind are filled with carnal thoughts and lusts of the flesh, this will be manifested in your words. If your heart and mind are filled with positive thoughts–thoughts of faith, love, joy, peace–what you say will reflect this.
Controlling your tongues is mandatory because:
–You can be snared with your own words: “You are snared by the words of your mouth;
You are taken by the words of your mouth” (Proverbs 6:2,NKJV).
-Your words can separate you from God: “Who have said, With our tongue will we prevail; our lips are our own: who is lord over us?” (Psalms 12:4, KJV).
-Your words can create a breach–an opening–in your spirit: “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4, KJV).
-Satan uses your lips to affect your soul: “A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul” (Proverbs 18:7, KJV).
-You tongue can cause calamity: “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity” (Proverbs 21:23).
-Your tongue affects your whole body: “And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell” (James 3:6, NKJV).
-Your tongue affects your whole life: “He who guards his mouth preserves his life, But he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction” (Proverbs 13:3, NKJV).
DEALING WITH COMMUNICATION:
Ask God to forgive you. Evil communication is sin, and as all sin, must be dealt with by confession, repentance, and seeking forgiveness through Jesus Christ.
Get your heart right with God. The first step in gaining victory over the tongue is to get your heart right with God because…”the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man ‘unclean.’ For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander” (Matthew 15:18-20). Your mouth speaks what is in your heart. If your heart is not right, your tongue will reveal it.
Recognize that you are responsible for the words that come out of your mouth, so take control! “But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:36-37).
Keep your words few and simple. The more you talk, the greater the opportunity to sin with your words.”When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise” (Proverbs 10:19).” Jesus said:” Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one” (Matthew 5:37).
Set a good example by your communications. Your conversation reflects on the Lord, so you should set a good example by what you say: “… set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity” (1Timothy 4:12).
Think before you speak. Take time to think about what you are going to say. The Bible warns:
Therefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear; slow to speak, slow to wrath. (James 1:19, KJV)
If you have played the fool and exalted yourself, or if you have planned evil, clap your hand over your mouth! (Proverbs 30:32)
The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.(Proverbs 15:28)
Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.(Proverbs 17:28)
Think on these verses before you speak.
The wise in heart are called prudent, understanding, and knowing, and winsome speech increases learning [in both speaker and listener]. (Proverbs 16:21, AMP)
The mind of the wise instructs his mouth, and adds learning and persuasiveness to his lips.(Proverbs 16:23, AMP)
A man has joy in making an apt answer, and a word spoken at the right moment–how good it is!
(Proverbs 15:23, AMP)
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. (Proverbs 25:11, KJV)
He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity. (Proverbs 21:23)
He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin. (Proverbs 13:3)
Ask yourself these questions before you speak.
-Will what I am about to say bring glory to God?
-Is it the truth?
-Is it fair to all concerned?
-Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
-Will it edify others?
-Have I talked to the person I am talking about?
-Is what I am saying a fact that needs to be shared or is what I am saying based on rumors and does not need to be said?
-Is it absolutely necessary that I share this?
Separate yourself from those who cannot control their tongues. The Bible warns: “Stay away from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips” (Proverbs 14:7). Do not hang out with them and allow them to pour their filthy, godless conversations into your spirit.
Learn the power of peaceful words. “Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone” (Proverbs 25:15).
Recognize your tongue is a weapon. Your tongue is a weapon you can use to overcome the enemy instead of being defeated by him: “And they overcame him (Satan) by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony…” (Revelation 12:11, KJV).
Avoid these communication errors which the Bible warns against.
-Murmuring and complaining: Complaining is actually a form of rebellion against God. When the nation of Israel complained against Moses and Aaron, God said they were actually complaining against Him. When you complain, you are rebelling against the way He is doing things and the circumstances He is allowing in your life. Rebellion is compared to the sin of witchcraft in the Bible (1 Samuel 15:23). As He did with Israel, God will execute judgment against those who murmur and complain (June 15-16).
-Profanity: Profanity is language or behavior that shows disrespect for God, Jesus, or the Holy Spirit including misuse of their names. It is vulgar and irreverent language or behavior, including jokes or innuendos that mock that which is holy.
-Covetous words: “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have…” (Hebrews 13:5). See also “covetousness” in this database.
-Idol words: “But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment” (Matthew 12:36, KJV).
-Foolish words: “The discerning heart seeks knowledge, but the mouth of a fool feeds on folly” (Proverbs 15:14).
-Unprofitable words: “Keep reminding them of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen” (2 Timothy 2:14)
-Fables and commandments of men: “Not giving heed to Jewish fables, and commandments of men, that turn from the truth” (Titus 1:14, KJV).
-Evil about things you do not know: “But these, like natural brute beasts made to be caught and destroyed, speak evil of the things they do not understand, and will utterly perish in their own corruption” (2 Peter 2:12, NKJV).
-Flattering words: “You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask to cover up greed–God is our witness. We were not looking for praise from men, not from you or anyone else” (1 Thessalonians 2:5-6).
-Vain words: “They speak vanity every one with his neighbor” (Psalms 12:2, KJV) .
-Proud words: “…with their mouth they speak proudly” (Psalms 17:10, KJV). See also “Pride” in this database.
-Enticing words: “And this I say, lest any man should beguile you with enticing words” (Colossians 2:4, KJV). Enticing words are words that sound wise and plausible, but are not.
-Boastful words: “How long shall they utter and speak hard things? And all the workers of iniquity boast themselves” (Psalms 94:4, KJV) .
-Words that misuse God’s name: “You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.” (Exodus 20:7).
-Cursing and bitter words: “Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness” (Romans 3:14, KJV).
-Lies: “Let the lying lips be put to silence, which speak grievous things proudly and contemptuously against the righteous” (Psalms 31:18, KJV).
-Malicious words against others: “So if I come, I will call attention to what he is doing, gossiping maliciously about us” (3 John 10).
-Backbiting words: “…and has no slander on his tongue, who does his neighbor no wrong and casts no slur on his fellowman” (Psalms 15:3).
-Words of discord: “…one who sows discord among brethren” (Proverbs 6:19, NKJV).
-Contentious words: “A fool’s lips enter into contention, and his mouth calls for blows” (Proverbs 18:6, NKJV).
-Words of strife: “You shall hide them in the secret place of Your presence from the plots of man; You shall keep them secretly in a pavilion from the strife of tongues” (Psalms 31:20, NKJV).
-Devouring and deceitful words: “You love every harmful word, O you deceitful tongue!” (Psalms 52:4).
-Froward and perverse words: “Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips” (Proverbs 4:24).
-Mischievous words: “They also that seek after my life lay snares for me: and they that seek my hurt speak mischievous things and imagine deceits all the day long” (Psalms 38:12, KJV).
-Tale-bearing words: “A talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter” (Proverbs 11:13, NKJV).
WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT COMMUNICATION:
You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God, for the Lord will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name. (Exodus 20:7, NIV)
You have tested my heart; You have visited me in the night; You have tried me and have found nothing; I have purposed that my mouth shall not transgress. (Psalms 17:3,NKJV)
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer. (Psalms 19:14, KJV)
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies. (Psalms 34:13)
I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me. (Psalms 39:1, KJV)
“Whoever offers praise glorifies Me; And to him who orders his conduct aright I will show the salvation of God.” (Psalms 50:23, NKJV)
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. (Psalm 51:10, KJV)
You love every harmful word, Oh you deceitful tongue! (Psalm 52:4)
Praise the Lord, you his angels, you mighty ones who do his bidding, who obey his word.(Psalm 103:20)
Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. (Psalm 141:3)
Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. (Proverbs 4:24)
Hear; For I will speak of excellent things; and the opening of my lips shall be right things. For my mouth shall speak truth; and wickedness is an abomination to my lips. All the words of my mouth are in righteousness; there is nothing froward or perverse in them. (Proverbs 8:6-8, KJV)
The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but overwhelms the mouth of the wicked. (Proverbs 10:11)
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. (Proverbs 10:19)
The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment. (Proverbs 10:21)
The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them. (Proverbs 12:6)
From the fruit of his lips a man is filled with good things as surely as the work of his hands rewards him. (Proverbs 12:14)
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Proverbs 12:18)
The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly. (Proverbs 15:2)
A man finds joy in giving an apt reply–and how good is a timely word! (Proverbs 15:23)
The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. (Proverbs 15:28)
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:24)
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. (Proverbs 17:14)
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue. (Proverbs 17:27-28)
A fool’s mouth is his destruction, And his lips are the snare of his soul. (Proverbs 18:7)
He who answers before listening–that is his folly and his shame. (Proverbs 18:13)
From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied. The tongue has the power of life and death. (Proverbs 18:20-21)
He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity. (Proverbs 21:23)
A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. (Proverbs 25:11)
Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone. (Proverbs 25:15)
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. (Proverbs 29:11)
Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 29:20)
Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few. (Ecclesiastes 5:2)
Do not let your mouth lead you into sin…(Ecclesiastes 5:6)
The words of the wise are as goads, and as nails fastened by the masters of assemblies, which are given from one shepherd. (Ecclesiastes 12:11, KJV)
Do not pay attention to every word people say. (Ecclesiastes 7:21)
The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools. (Ecclesiastes 9:17)
So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it. (Isaiah 55:11, NKJV)
Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. (Matthew 5:37)
Men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.
For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. (Matthew 12:36-37)
As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions–it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, (Ephesians 2:1-6)
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 4:22-25)
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. (Ephesians 4:29, KJV)
Let all…evil speaking be put away from you…(Ephesians 4:31, KJV)
But now also put off…filthy communication out of your mouth. (Colossians 3:8, NKJV)
Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. (1 Timothy 4:12)
That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus. (Philemon 6, KJV)
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. (James 1:19-21)
Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water. (James 3:6-12)
…be holy in all manner of conversation; Because it is written, be holy; for I am holy. (1 Peter 1:15-16)
For, Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. (1 Peter 3:10)
If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. (1 Peter 4:11)
(See also “Profanity” and “Gossip” in this database.)