Sin

SIN

 

DEFINITIONBiblically, sin is any transgression of the law of God (1 John 3:4).

FACTS ABOUT SIN:

The first sin was committed by Lucifer, now known as Satan.  Read about it in Isaiah 14:12-15.

Sin entered the world through the transgression committed by Adam and Eve  (Genesis 3).  Because of their sin, we are all born with a basic sin nature (Psalm 51:5).  In addition, we all commit personal sins of omission (things we should do that we don’t) and commission (sins we commit).

Man’s greatest problem is sin. In Romans 3:23 we read, “All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”  The Bible says all people are sinners and that sin separates us from God.

The process of sin. James describes the process of sin:  “…but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death”  (James 1:14-15). The end result of sin is spiritual deathBseparation from God:   “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 6:23). 

God loves you and has provided forgiveness for your sins. The Bible says, “This is how God showed His love among us: He sent His one and only Son into the world…as an atoning sacrifice for our sins” (1 John 4:9-10). God loves you so much that He has provided a way for your sins to be forgiven so that you do not have to reap the wages of sin – spiritual death through separation from God.

The answer to your sin problem is Jesus Christ. Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me”( John 14:6).  Acts 4:12 confirms, “Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.”  Jesus Christ is the answer to your sin problem.  He is the only way to God and the only way to be forgiven.  You must accept Jesus as your personal Savior. Romans 10:9 declares, “If you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord: and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”

Your past sins.  When you accepted Jesus as your Savior, He forgave the sins you confessed, but He also cleansed you from all unrighteousness ; even those sins you did not remember and acts you did not realize were sin.  You do not need to confess these past sins ever again.  They are forgiven and forgotten by God who declaresA… for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more” (Jeremiah 31:34).

Sins committed after you accept Christ should be dealt with daily.  Part of the model prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 to be prayed daily includes asking forgiveness for sins you commit after receiving Christ.  A true believer will not desire to continue in known sin (1 John 3:6-10).

Temptation to sin is common to all people.  It is not temptation that is wrong, but yielding to it. (James 1:13-15).  God does not tempt you.  You are tempted when you are drawn away by your own lusts and yield to them (James 1:13-15).

DEALING WITH  SIN:

Admit your sin.  Do not attempt to cover it, try to hide from God, or blame others.  Adam and Eve tried these methods and they did not work.  Admit that your sin is disobedience.

Ask God to forgive you“If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives” (1 John 1:8-10).

Walk in the Spirit.  If you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the desires of your sinful flesh. Walking in the Spirit means allowing spiritual fruit to be manifested in your life instead of the works of the flesh (Galatians 5:16-25).

Put off sinful behaviors.  Strip yourself of these as you would remove a dirty garment.  Replace these with godly behaviors.  See “Put Off and Put On”  in Appendix  Three of this database.

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SIN:

For the Lord watches over the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish. (Psalm 1:6)

He who digs a hole and scoops it out falls into the pit he has made. The trouble he causes recoils on himself; his violence comes down on his own head. (Psalm 7:15-16)

All have turned aside, they have together become corrupt; there is no one who does good, not even one. (Psalm 14:3)

Keep your servant also from willful sins; may they not rule over me. Then I will be blameless, innocent of great transgression. (Psalm 19:13)

Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.  When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.  For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.

Selah   Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’–and you forgave the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:2-5)

See how the evildoers lie fallen–thrown down, not able to rise! (Psalm 36:12)

The Lord laughs at the wicked, for he knows their day is coming. (Psalm 37:13)

Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.  For I know my transgressions,

and my sin is always before me.  Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge.  Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.  (Psalm 51:2-5)

Even from birth the wicked go astray; from the womb they are wayward and speak lies. (Psalm 58:3)

As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.(Psalm 103:12)

The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast. (Proverbs 5:22)

The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the unfaithful are trapped by evil desires. (Proverbs 11:6)

Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure; I am clean and without sin”? (Proverbs 20:9)

The evil man has no future hope, and the lamp of the wicked will be snuffed out. (Proverbs 24:20)

He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.  (Proverbs 28:13)

There is not a righteous man on earth who does what is right and never sins. (Ecclesiastes 7:20)

Although a wicked man commits a hundred crimes and still lives a long time, I know that it will go better with God-fearing men, who are reverent before God. (Ecclesiastes 8:12)

There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: righteous men who get what the wicked deserve, and wicked men who get what the righteous deserve. (Ecclesiastes 8:14)

One sinner destroys much good. (Ecclesiastes 9:18)

God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil. (Ecclesiastes 12:14)

I, even I, am he who blots out  your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. (Isaiah 43:25)

“There is no peace,” says my God, “for the wicked.” (Isaiah 57:21)

Your own conduct and actions have brought this upon you. This is your punishment. How bitter it is! How it pierces to the heart! (Jeremiah 4:18)

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. (John 3:16-17)

If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her. (John 8:7)

Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.”  (John 8:34)

The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men. (Romans 1:18)

But because of your stubbornness and you unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God’s wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed. (Romans 2:5)

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. (Romans 3:23-24)

Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all men, because all sinned– for before the law was given, sin was in the world. (Romans 5:12-13)

In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus.  Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires.  Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness.  For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace.  (Romans 6:11-14)

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23)

I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. (Romans 7:18)

Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. (Romans 7:20-21)

That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.  For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.  (Romans 10:9-10)

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.  (1 Corinthians 10:13)

So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law.  The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;  idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions  and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.  Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires.  Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. (Galatians 5:16-26)

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. the one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. (Galatians 6:7-8)

The sins of some men are obvious, reaching the place of judgment ahead of them; the sins of others trail behind them. (1 Timothy 5:24)

If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. (Hebrews 10:26-27)

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone;  but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.  Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.   (James 1:13-15)

For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it. For he who said, “Do not commit adultery,” also said, “Do not murder.” If you do not commit adultery but do commit murder, you have become a lawbreaker. (James 2:10-11)

Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins. (James 4:17)

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.  (James 5:16)

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.  (2 Peter 3:9)

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. (1 John 1:8-10)

No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.  Dear children, do not let anyone lead you astray. He who does what is right is righteous, just as he is righteous.  He who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work.  No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God.  This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not a child of God; nor is anyone who does not love his brother. (1 John 3:6-10)

This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.  This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. (1 John 4:9-10)

Sins listed in scripture.  Some are repeated in more than one list. There are…

-Seven which come from the heart and defile: Matthew 15:18-20

-Thirteen which come from the heart and defile: Mark 7:21-23

-Twenty-three which bring the judgment of God: Romans 1:29-32

-Seven which believers cannot do: Romans 13:13,14

-Six with which believers should not associate: 1 Corinthians 5:9-11

-Ten which prevent entrance into the Kingdom of God: 1 Corinthians 6:9,10

-Seventeen more which prevent entrance into the Kingdom of God: Galatians 5:19-21

-Four which bring wrath and prevent entrance into the Kingdom of God: Ephesians 5:5-6

-Eleven  from  which  believers must turn away: 2 Corinthians 12:20-21

-Nine in which the unsaved live and in which  believers should not live: Ephesians 4:17-19

-Six which must not exist among believers: Ephesians 5:3,4

-Nine which believers should put away: Ephesians 4:25,28,29,31

-Six which believers must put off: Colossians 3:8,9

-Six which believers must mortify and which bring the wrath of God: Colossians 3:5-6

-Fourteen for which the law was given: 1 Timothy 1:9-10

-Nineteen from which believers must turn away: 2 Timothy 3:1-5

-Nine from which believers are saved: Titus 3:3-5

-Five which believers must lay aside: 1 Peter 2:1

-Seven sins of the flesh in which believers no longer live: 1 Peter 4:2-4

-Eight which condemn to the lake of fire: Revelation 21:8

-Six which prevent access to the tree of life and the holy city: Revelation 22:14

Shame

SHAME

 

DEFINITIONShame is a negative emotion that combines feelings of unworthiness, rejection, embarrassment, and disgrace.  Biblically, shame results from a recognition of one’s guilt because of sin.

FACTS ABOUT SHAME:

Shame is a result of sin.  Before they sinned, Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed.  One of the first emotions they experienced after they sinned was shame, as they made fig leaves in an attempt to cover their nakedness and they tried to hide from the presence of God.

There is a difference between guilt and shame.  Guilt  means “debt” and is essentially an emotion resulting from transgression of an accepted standard of God’ Word by a definite, voluntary act.  It is concerned with doing or lack of doing, sins of commission or omission–failing to do something right or doing something you know to be wrong. Common sources of  guilt include acts of dishonesty, lying, stealing, selfishness, cheating, infidelity, and hurting others. Guilt says to your conscience, “You made a mistake.  What you did was bad.”  Shame, however,  means “to cover up and to envelop” and  is concerned with being rather than doing.  Shame says, “You are no good, you are bad, you are inadequate.”  The Apostle Paul illustrates the difference between guilt and shame when he says, “For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice” (Romans 7:19).  That is guilt resulting from  doing.  Then Paul agonizes, “Oh wretched man that I am!  Who will deliver me from this body of death?” (Romans 7:2).  That is shame speaking.

Shame-based thinking means your thoughts are dominated by feelings of shame.  This can lead to feelings of paranoia, repression, and rationalization of your behavior.  Shame brings personal condemnation and causes you to blame others in order to make yourself feel better.  You may also be plagued by perfectionism to attempt to ease your feelings of shame or become defensive, arrogantly self-righteous, or aggressive with others.  Some people with shame issues turn to addictive substances, while others disassociate themselves from friends and family because they do not feel worthy.

The power of shame is manifested in five areas in your life:

     Inherited shame results from the basic sin nature which we all receive at birth due to the original transgression of man in the Garden of Eden.

     Individual shame results from sins you personally commit.

     Incessant shame refers to the continuous cycle of shame manifested from generation to generation.  If you do not deal with shame successfully, then you pass it on to your children and they duplicate it by passing it on to the next generation.

     Imposed shame is inflicted upon you by others who put you down and tell you that you are stupid or not good enough.

     Institutional shame comes through the institutions of society.  You may be shamed by society because of the color of your skin, your family background, or the city or nation in which you live.

DEALING WITH  SHAME:

Recognize that you do not have to bear your shame.  Jesus bore your sin and sickness at the cross so that you no longer need bear them.  He also bore your shame. So why are you continuing to bear it?   He went to the cross carrying your shame:  “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:3).

Acknowledge your shame.  Shame will be used by Satan to destroy you.  Shame will keep you shackled to your past so that you cannot move forward to embrace your destiny.  Acknowledge your shameful feelings so you can deal with them.

Act against your shame. Repent of any shame-producing, sinful behavior.  Repent of any bitterness or unforgiveness you may harbor against those who caused you shame.

Address your shame.  When the voice of accusation says, “Shame on you,” respond by declaring, “No, Jesus bore my shame.”

Silence the enemy when he returns with shameful accusations.  Make this declaration:  “No…My sin and shame are on Jesus.  His righteousness is on me. I reject your accusations in the name of Jesus Christ.”

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SHAME:

I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.  Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.  (Psalm 34:4-5)

I hold fast to your statutes, O Lord; do not let me be put to shame.  (Psalm 119:31)

The wise inherit honor, but fools he holds up to shame.  (Proverbs 3:35)

When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.  (Proverbs 11:2,  NKJV)

For the Lord God will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed. (Isaiah 50:7, KJV)

Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.(Isaiah 54:4)

Instead of their shame  my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land,and everlasting joy will be theirs. (Isaiah 61:7)

And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed. (Joel 2:26, KJV)

As the Scripture says, “Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame. (Romans 10:11)

Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Hebrews 12:3).

(For further study on the subject of Shame, see the Harvestime International Network publication entitled “Shattering The Shackles Of Shame” available at http://www.harvestime.org)

Sexuality

SEXUALITY

DEFINITION:  Sexuality is sexual activity, involvement, or interest.  For the believer, sexuality as it was intended is to be is governed by biblical standards.

 

FACTS ABOUT SEXUALITY:

The original purpose of sex was for reproduction.  After God created the first man and woman, God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it” (Genesis 1:28).

Sex is intended to be within the confines of marriage, one man with one woman in a lifetime commitment:  “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh”  (Genesis 2:24).  According to Hebrews 13:4, the marriage bed should be kept pure.  Sexual relationships outside of marriage are sinful.  Proverbs 5:18-19 speaks of “rejoicing” with your mate.

 Sexual desire is not sinful.  It is a natural desire, but it must be directed and contained within the confines of marriage as it is defined biblically.

Gender identity. To question the gender one was born is to challenge God’s fixed order of creation. To question whether God made us in His image as male and female is to arrogantly rise up against Gods authority.  To groom children to accept this perversion is child abuse.

 

DEALING WITH  SEXUALITY:

Confess  sexual sins.  If you have engaged in pre-marital sex, homosexuality, adultery, fornication, incest, molestation–any type of sexual sin–you must confess and repent of your sin.  Ask God to forgive you and deliver you from unholy sexual desires.

Break any sexual relationships that are outside of the confines of marriage.  Any flirtatious, adulterous, homosexual ties must be broken.  Even if a relationship has not yet been consummated by intercourse, a deep emotional tie will eventually lead to sexual violations.  Break all sinful emotional and physical relationships.

Eliminate things that stimulate your sexual passions including sensual films, books, magazines, movies, music, pictures, the Internet, etc.

Recognize that your body belongs to God.  It is not your own to do with as you please.  It is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).  You should treat it as you would a church sanctuary.

Dedicate yourself to abstinence.  Determine that you will not engage in any sexual relationships outside the confines of  marriage.
 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SEXUALITY:

 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28)

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. (Proverbs 5:15)

May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer–may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
(Proverbs 5:18-19)

He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:11-12)

Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. (Romans 1:24)

Since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. (Romans 1:28)

Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. (Romans 6:13)

Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone to obey him as slaves, you are slaves to the one whom you obey–whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness? (Romans 6:16)

Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness. (Romans 6:19)

Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. (Romans 13:13)

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”  But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.   Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.  Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?  For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.  (1 Corinthians 6:15-20, NKJV)

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more. (Ephesians 4:19)

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. (Ephesians 5:11-12)

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. (James 1:21)

Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire. (Jude 1:7)

(See related topics of “Adultery”, “Promiscuity”, “Homosexuality”, and “Incest” in this database.)

Self-Esteem

SELF-ESTEEM

 

DEFINITION:  Self-esteem is confidence in your own merit as a person, the quality of feeling worthy of esteem or respect by yourself and others.  It is how you honestly feel about your abilities and limitations.  Low self-esteem is when you feel unworthy, alienated, and incompetent.

FACTS ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM: 

There is a difference between self-esteem and Christ-centered esteem.  It is not who you are, but who He is and what He has done in your life.  “Let him who boasts boast in the Lord.   For it is not the one who commends himself who is approved, but the one whom the Lord commends” (2 Corinthians 10:17-18).  Apart from Christ, you can do nothing and are nothing (John 15:5).

Low self-esteem makes you believe you are incompetent at everything, that you are loser, a failure, you will never amount to anything, and you don’t fit in.  Because of these feelings, you may withdraw from others and find it difficult to establish meaningful relationships.

Many low self-esteem issues result from verbal abuse by parents, spouses, or friends who speak negative things into your life.

Biblical self-esteem is not pride.  It is acknowledging who you are in Christ Jesus and giving Him glory for anything and everything you achieve in life.

DEALING WITH  SELF-ESTEEM:

Do not compare yourself to others:  This often causes self-esteem issues.  The Bible says: “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise” (2 Corinthians 10:12). Do not try to be like someone else.  Do not criticize yourself for not being as beautiful, popular, or smart as others.

Do not focus on yourself, focus on Him.  It is not who you are, but who He is in you.  When you focus on the great power of God that is resident within you, your self-esteem issues will vanish (2 Corinthians 10:17-18).  Realize that apart from God, you are nothing and can do nothing (John 15:5).

Accept yourself as a product of God’s grace.  the Apostle Paul said:  “But by the grace of God I am what I am…” (1 Corinthians 15:10).  He knew it was not about him, rather it was about God’s grace manifested in and through him.  Paul had a weakness that he asked God to remove, but his request was denied three times.  He learned to accept his weaknesses and even glory in them because it provided an opportunity for God’s strength to be manifested  (2 Corinthians 12:8-9).

Focus on your successes instead of your failures.  God has given you all you need to be successful.   He has given you His power, His love, and  a sound mind:  “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7, KJV).  God has guaranteed success to those who walk in the ways of the Lord  (Psalm 1).

Acknowledge who you are in God.  You are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:16-17).  The very hairs of your head are numbered (Luke 12:7).  You are God’s workmanship (Ephesians 2:10).  He made you as you are (Exodus 3:11).  When you put yourself down, you are putting down the workmanship of God.   God thinks so highly of you that He not only created you in the womb, but He planned all the days of your life (Psalm 139:13-18).

Reprogram your mind with God’s Word.  Low self-esteem feeds on negative thoughts.  Reprogram your mind with the Word of God and what God says about you and your thinking will be transformed. The book of Ephesians is a good place to start.

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM:

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.  (Genesis 1:16-17)

But Moses said to God, “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?”  (Exodus 3:11)

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”  (1 Samuel 16:7)

When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him? You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned him with glory and honor. (Psalm 8:3-5)

I said to the Lord, “You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.”  (Psalm 16:2)

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,  your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me  were written in your book before one of them came to be.  How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them!  Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I awake, I am still with you. (Psalm 139:13-18)

Rich and poor have this in common: the Lord is the maker of them all. (Proverbs 22:2)

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…(Jeremiah 1:5)

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  (Jeremiah 29:11)

The very hairs of your head are numbered. (Luke 12:7)

“I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”  (John 15:5)

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.  For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.  (Romans 12:2-3)

When I came to you, brothers, I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God.   For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and him crucified. I came to you in weakness and fear, and with much trembling.  My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spirit’s power,  so that your faith might not rest on men’s wisdom, but on God’s power. (1 Corinthians 2:1-5)

But by the grace of God I am what I am…(1 Corinthians 15:10)

We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life.  Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.  He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us,  (2 Corinthians 1:8-11)

And just as we have born the likeness of the earthly man, so shall we bear the likeness of the man from heaven. (1 Corinthians 15:49)

And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. (2 Corinthians 3:18)

But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us.  We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair;  persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. (2 Corinthians 4:7-9)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. (2 Corinthians 10:12)

Let him who boasts boast in the Lord.   For it is not the one who commends himself who is approved, but the one whom the Lord commends. (2 Corinthians 10:17-18)

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.  That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.  (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. (Ephesians 2:10)

…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 1:6)

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.  Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:  Who, being in very nature God,

did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,  but made himself nothing,

taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.  And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death–even death on a cross!  (Philippians 2:3-8)

Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,  I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)

I can do everything through him who gives me strength.  (Philippians 4:13)

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7, KJV).

But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; (1 Peter 2:9, NKJV)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.  (1 Peter 3:3-4)

In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. (1 John 4:17)

And we are in him who is true – even in his Son Jesus Christ. (1 John 5:20)

Study the stories of Moses (Exodus 3); Gideon (Judges 6); and Jeremiah (Jeremiah 1).  These men all felt unworthy of the tasks to which God had called them.  God emphasized that it was not who they were that was important, but who they would become with God working in and through them.

Salvation

SALVATION

 

DEFINITION:  Biblically, salvation means the act of snatching others by force from serious spiritual danger, saving a person from spiritual death, and delivering one from the penalty, peril, and power of sin.

FACTS ABOUT SALVATION:

Salvation implies that you are delivered from something to something.  You are saved from sin and reconciled with God.  You are saved from the Kingdom of Satan and born-again in the Kingdom of God.  You are delivered from spiritual death to spiritual life.

Salvation is a gift.  There is nothing you can do to earn it (Romans 6:23; Ephesians 2:8-9).

God’s goodness leads you to repentance.  Romans 2:4 indicates that it is God’s goodness–not His judgment–that draws you to repent.

Salvation comes only through Jesus Christ.  There are not “many roads to God”.  The Bible says there is one way to God, and that is through Jesus Christ.

Salvation is attained by repentance and confession. Confession is necessary in order to receive forgiveness:  “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives” (1 John 1:8-10).

You are not required to confess to another person.  Jesus Christ is the mediator between you and God, and you can confess directly to Him.  Some people find it helpful, however, to ask a spiritual leader to help them confess their sins to God.  If you do this, prayerfully select someone who will keep your confidences.

Public confessions are not necessary in order to receive forgiveness.  In fact, public confessions are sometimes disruptive in a church fellowship.  Confessing your faults and asking for prayer as mentioned in James 5:16 is different than confessing specific sins. For example, you might say “I need prayer for my problem with unforgiveness” rather than  pointing out specific people in the church you are unable to forgive! You should, however, always confess and ask forgiveness of anyone you have wronged.

Benefits of salvation include not only reconciliation with God, but also the gift of hope (1 Thessalonians 5:8-10); provision (Matthew 6:33); eternal life (John 3:16-17); freedom from the bondage of sin (2 Corinthians 3:17); release from sin, shame, and guilt  (Isaiah 53:3-5); and abundant life in this world and eternal life in the one to come (John 3:16-17).

DEALING WITH  SALVATION:

Confess your sins to God in the name of Jesus.  Confess your known sins, and He will forgive them and then cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:8-9).  Confession is part of the model prayer that is to be prayed daily by believers (Matthew 6:9-13).

Do not keep confessing sins of the past.  Once confessed, God forgives you.  The Bible says that God takes your sins, casts them as far as the east is from the west (Psalm 103:12), and remembers them no more (Isaiah 43:25).

Realize that you are a new creature in Christ.   The Bible teaches that man is body, soul, and spirit.   When you accept Jesus as Savior, you experience a spiritual rebirth (John 3:5-8).  You are a totally new person in Christ.

You must allow your spirit to rule.  For years, your soul ruled your spirit and your body.  Whatever your soul desired or dictated, you did – whether it be drugs, alcohol,  pornography, immorality, etc.   You did not exercise control over emotions such as anger, unforgiveness, and bitterness.  You went where you wanted to go and did what you wanted to do.  You got to where you are today by doing what you did.  If you want things to change, you must do something different.   You must learn to let your redeemed spirit control your body and your soulish nature -your mind, will, and emotions.

When your old soulish nature rises up and you sin again, it does not mean you were not saved.  You do not need to accept Jesus as Savior again.  You simply need to confess and ask God to forgive you (1 John 1:8-9).

Break the strongholds of habitual sin. Habitual sin enslaves you and erects spiritual strongholds in your life are erected.  This is why you should never deliberately sin. Study about the struggle of Apostle Paul in Romans 7:15-21 and the glorious solution in Romans 8.  God has given a way of escape in every temptation.  Take it!  ANo temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it@ (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Recognize the difference between conviction and condemnation. Condemnation is general.  You believe you are a bad person, you can never change, etc. These thoughts come from the enemy to discourage you in your new life.  Conviction is specific and is from the Holy Spirit to reprove you for wrong so you can correct it.  For example, you feel convicted because you lied to someone.  This is the Holy Spirit working with you to help you live out your new life of faith.

Continue to grow in your faith.

-Study the Word of God.  You cannot grow without food. Just as natural food supplies energy for your physical growth, the Holy Bible is the food which supplies energy for your spiritual growth. Your spiritual growth will be in direct proportion to your increasing knowledge of God’s Word. Personal Bible study must become a part of your daily routine.  Start by reading the book of John.

-Pray.  Use the pattern of the Lord=s prayer to guide you in daily prayer (Matthew 6:9-    13).

-Attend a local Bible-believing church so your new faith will grow.

-Make friends with other believers who will strengthen your faith.

Ask God to remove spiritual blindness from the minds of the unsaved.  Ask the Father to draw your unsaved loved one to Him (John 6:44, 2 Corinthians 4:4).  Pray for the Holy Spirit to convict and convince them (John 16:8, AMP).  Continue to believe for household salvation and never give up (Acts 16:31, Luke 18:1, AMP).

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT SALVATION:

Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.  When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.  For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.   Selah.   Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord–and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” (Psalm 32:2-5)

Read David’s great psalm of confession:  Psalm 51.

As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. (Psalm 103:12)

He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy. (Proverbs 28:13)

I, even I, am he who blots out  your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. (Isaiah 43:25)

He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.  Surely he took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered him stricken by God, smitten by him, and afflicted.  But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities;

the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.  We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; and the Lord has laid on him

the iniquity of us all.   (Isaiah 53:3-6)

Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God–children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.  (John 1:12-13)

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. (John 3:16)

“Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life.” (John 5:24)

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.  I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.  My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand.  (John 10:27-28)

Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord,  and that he may send the Christ, who has been appointed for you–even Jesus. (Acts 3:19-20)

Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.  (Acts 4:12)

…for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,  and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. (Romans 3:23)

That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.  For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.  (Romans 10:9-10)

…Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.    (Romans 10:13)

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God–not by works, so that no one can boast.  (Ephesians 2:8-9)

…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.  (Philippians 1:6)

So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.  You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.  For in just a very little while, “He who is coming will come and will not delay.  But my righteous one will live by faith.  And if he shrinks back,  I will not be pleased with him.”    But we are not of those who shrink back and are destroyed, but of those who believe and are saved.  (Hebrews 10:35)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,  and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade–kept in heaven for you,  who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. (1 Peter 1:3-5)

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.   (2 Peter 3:9)

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.  If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. (1 John 1:8-10)

And this is what he promised us–even eternal life.  (1 John 2:25)

I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life. (1 John 5:13)

(See also “Repentance” and “Confession” in this database.)

Repentance

REPENTANCE

 

DEFINITIONRepentance is the act of expressing sorrow for something wrong you have done.  Biblically, it is a change that occurs in the mind and heart, permeates the soul and spirit, and results in changes in outward actions and spiritual direction. Conversion is a similar word, meaning to turn from the wrong way to the right way, from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God (Acts 11:21, 26:18).

FACTS ABOUT REPENTANCE:

Repentance is not just an emotional response.  Some people associate repentance with emotions like shedding tears and feeling sorry for wrong actions and thoughts. Repentance is not an emotion. It is a decision. Emotion sometimes accompanies repentance, but it is possible for a person to feel great emotion and shed many tears and yet never truly repent.

Repentance is not fulfilling a religious requirement.  Some people associate repentance with meeting special religious requirements. This is sometimes called “doing penance” for a wrong.  It is possible to fulfill many religious requirements and yet never repent in the true Biblical sense.

Repentance is important.  God commands it (Acts 17:30); it is necessary to avoid spiritual death (Luke 13:3); it is necessary to receive eternal life (Acts 11:18); and essential in order to be forgiven by God (Acts 2:38) and enter His Kingdom (Matthew 4:17).

Repentance is God’s desire for all.  God does not want anyone to experience the spiritual death of eternal separation from God in Hell (2 Peter 3:9).

Everyone needs to repent and be converted.  The Bible says:  “…for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”  (Romans 3:23, NKJV). This means that everyone must repent of sin and accept Christ as Savior.  This is called a born-again or conversion experience.

Believers need to repent on a regular basis.  The prayer for forgiveness is part of the Lord’s Prayer, our pattern for daily prayer.  Believers in Corinth were mandated to repent (2 Corinthians 7:9).   The Ephesians were told to repent (Revelation 2:5), and believers at Pergamos, Sardis, and Laodicea were called to repentance (Revelation 2:16; 3:3; 3:19).

People are drawn to repentance by the goodness of God (Romans 2:4); the preaching of the Word of God (Matthew 12:41); the call of Christ (Matthew 9:13); and by being drawn by God the Father (John 6:44).  Rebuke, which is correction from the Word of God, also draws men to repentance (Luke 17:3), as does godly sorrow (2 Corinthians 7:10).

DEALING WITH  REPENTANCE:

If you are an unbeliever, ask God to forgive your sin and accept Christ as Savior. This inward decision will result in an outward change in you thinking, attitudes, emotions, and behavior.

Make repentance part of your everyday prayer.  Use the model of the Lord’s prayer (Matthew 6:9-13).  You do not need to get “saved” again every time your sin, nor do you need to repent for past sins already forgiven.   The daily prayer for forgiveness is to make you aware of your continued need for repentance.

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT REPENTANCE:

Psalm 51:  An example of true repentance.

Exodus 9:27-35:  An example of insincere repentance.

Turn to me and be saved, all you ends of the earth; for I am God, and there is no other. (Isaiah 45:22)

Let him turn to the Lord, and he will have mercy on him, and to our God, for he will freely pardon. (Isaiah 55:7)

But if a wicked man turns from all his sins which he has committed, keeps all My statutes, and does what is lawful and right, he shall surely live; he shall not die. (Ezekiel 18:21)

From that time on Jesus began to preach, “Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is near.” (Matthew 4:17)

The kingdom of God is near. Repent and believe the good news! (Mark 1:15)

On hearing this, Jesus said to them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”  (Mark 2:17)

They went out and preached that people should repent. (Mark 6:12)

I tell you,…unless you repent, you too will all perish. (Luke 13:3)

I tell you that in the same way there will be more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need to repent. (Luke 15:7)

He told them, “This is what is written: The Christ will suffer and rise from the dead on the third day,  and repentance and forgiveness of sins will be preached in his name to all nations, beginning at Jerusalem.” (Luke 24:46-47)

“No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him…” (John 6:44)

Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. (Acts 2:38)

Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord, and that he may send the Christ, who has been appointed for you–even Jesus. (Acts 3:19-20)

In the past God overlooked such ignorance, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent.  (Acts 17:30)

Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance?  (Romans 2:4)

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,  (Romans 3:23)

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23)

Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it–I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while–yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. (2 Corinthians 7:8-10)

Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning. (1 Corinthians 15:34)

Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth., and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will. (2 Timothy 2:25-26)

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. (2 Peter 3:9)

Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. (Revelation 2:5)

Remember therefore, what you have received and heard; obey it, and repent. But if you do not wake up, I will come like a thief, and you will not know at what time I will come to you. (Revelation 3:3)

Rejection and Abandonment

REJECTION AND ABANDONMENT

 

DEFINITIONThe original meaning of the word rejection was to throw back.  Rejection occurs when a person or group of people excludes an individual and refuses to acknowledge or accept them.   Abandonment is a similar term, meaning  to desert someone, to leave and never return.

FACTS ABOUT REJECTION AND ABANDONMENT:

Rejection takes many forms.  It may occur through the ending of a relationship, unrequited affection for someone, losing a job, or  through criticism.  Feelings of rejection also can arise from emotional or physical abandonment by friends or family or close relations such as a parent or a spouse.  Failure to achieve a goal like being accepted by a college or hired for a job can also cause feelings of rejection.

Reactions to rejection may include disappointment, anger, sadness, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment.  Rejection may cause you to stop trying because of fear of rejection.  You may experience feelings of inferiority and develop a critical spirit towards yourself or those by whom you were rejected.  You may have difficulty in forming relationships because of rejections experienced in the past.  Feelings of rejection can actually cause you to miss God’s plan for your life when you withdraw to nurse your wounds.

You are not alone in your rejection.  Many people in the Bible experienced rejection.  The Old Testament prophets were often rejected and disrespected.  They ended up in lions’ dens, pits, and were martyred.  Joseph, whose story is recorded in Genesis, was rejected by his family and his brothers sold him into slavery. Moses experienced repeated rejection before Pharaoh.   In the New Testament, the Apostle Paul was stoned by one group of people, run out of town, and escaped with his life by being let over the wall in a basket.   Peter and John were imprisoned and  Stephen experienced the ultimate rejection–he was martyred after preaching one of the greatest messages recorded in the New Testament.   Everyone experiences rejection.  It is impossible to go through life without feeling rejected at some time.

God experienced rejection.  In Numbers 14:11 the Lord asked Moses:  “How long will these people reject me?  How long will they not believe me, with all the signs which I have performed among them”  (Numbers 14:11, NKJV).

Jesus experienced rejection.  The prophet Isaiah said concerning Jesus:  “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces  he was despised, and we esteemed him not” (Isaiah 53:3).   Jesus came to His own people and they rejected him (John 1:11) and He was rejected in His own hometown (Mark 6:4).  Like Jesus, you will be rejected because you are not of this world (John 15:18-19).

DEALING WITH  REJECTION AND ABANDONMENT:

Pray about your rejection issues.  Turn your disappointment, hurt, anger, sadness, depression over to the Lord.  Ask Him to heal your wounded emotions.  The Bible directs us to give thanks in everything, so thank God that He is guiding your life, even through the pain of rejection and abandonment.

Determine that you will live by faith.  Rejection is a feeling, but we do not live the Christian life on the basis of feelings.  We live by faith in God.  We do not live in the natural.  We live in the supernatural.

Permit the power of the Holy Spirit to work in your life.  As a born-again believer, the Holy Spirit dwells within you.  Just because you feel rejected, you are not incompetent.  You are fully equipped, through the power of the Holy Spirit, to accomplish all that God has called you to do:  “I can do everything through him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13).

Know that you are who God says you are.  Regardless of what others think about you, as a believer you are who the Lord says you are.   You belong to the family of God (Romans 8:16).  You are so valuable that Jesus died for you (John 3:16).

Know that you are really never alone.  Jesus said “And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever–the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you.  I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you” (John 14:16-18).

Do not view rejection as a negative thing.  If you have made Jesus the Lord of your life, then He is guiding each aspect of your life.  The fact that you are rejected by a person, group, job, college, etc., may be part of His plan for you.  God guides us through closed doors as well as open doors.   The Bible says that “all things” work together for your good when you are a true believer who loves God:  “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”  (Romans 8:28).

Use rejection as a cause to examine yourself.  Honestly assess your actions, attitudes, and responses to others to see if there is a legitimate reason for being rejected.  For example, if you were rejected for a job was it because you did not interview well?  If you are repeatedly rejected by others, could there be reasons?   If you discover legitimate reasons for rejection in any area, correct these with the help of the Lord.

Do not let rejection hinder you from fulfilling your destiny.  God has a plan for your life.  Perhaps rejection has blocked the way you were planning to go, but if your goals and purposes are God-given, you will still achieve them–perhaps just not in the way you thought.  Do not let rejection stand in your way.  Get up and try again.  You never truly fail unless you stop trying, and it is always too soon to quit!

Overcome your fear of rejection by putting God first.  When the disciples were imprisoned and threatened by the authorities because of their stand for the Gospel, they declared:  “We must obey God rather than men”  (Acts 5:29).

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT REJECTION AND ABANDONMENT:

Read the story of the woman at the well in John chapter 4.  Because of her lifestyle, this woman had obviously been rejected by society, as she came to draw water when no one else was there–perhaps to avoid the feelings of rejection and the gossip.  Jesus accepted her as she was and changed her life.  She overcame her feeling of rejection and became a powerful evangelist–she brought the whole city out to meet Jesus.

… for you are a people holy to the Lord your God. Out of all the peoples on the face of the earth, the Lord has chosen you to be his treasured possession. (Deuteronomy 14:2)

How long will these people reject me?  How long will they not believe me, with all the signs which I have performed among them.  (Numbers 14:11, NKJV).

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:17)

For the Lord will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance. (Psalm 94:14)

The stone which the builders refused is become the head stone of the corner. This is the Lord’s doing; it is marvelous in our eyes. (Psalm 118:22)

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,  your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me  were written in your book  before one of them came to be.  (Psalm 139:13-16)

I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you.  So do not fear, for I am with you;

do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.  (Isaiah 41:9-10)

Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne?Though she may forget, I will not forget you!   See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.  (Isaiah 49:15-16)

He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces  he was despised, and we esteemed him not.  (Isaiah 53:3)

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.  Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.  (Matthew 5:11-12)

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. (Matthew 11:28-30)

Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: ‘The stone the builders rejected has become the capstone;  the Lord has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes’? ” (Matthew 21:42)

And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. (Matthew 28:20)

Jesus said to them, “Only in his hometown, among his relatives and in his own house is a prophet without honor.”   He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them.  And he was amazed at their lack of faith.   (Mark 6:4-6)

He who listens to you listens to me; he who rejects you rejects me; but he who rejects me rejects him who sent me. (Luke 10:16)

O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!  Look, your house is left to you desolate. I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, ‘Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.’  (Luke 13:34-35)

He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him.  He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him.  Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God–  children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.  (John 1:10-131)

And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever–the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you.  I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.  (John 14:16-18)

If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.  (John 15:18-19)

We must obey God rather than men.  (Acts 5:29)

The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children.  Now if we are children, then we are heirs–heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. (Romans 8:16-17)

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.  (Romans 8:28)

Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?  If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple.  (1 Corinthians 3:16)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.  For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will–to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.  In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace  that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding.  (Ephesians 1:3-8)

I can do everything through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)

As you come to him, the living Stone–rejected by men but chosen by God and precious to him–  you also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. 6 For in Scripture it says: “See, I lay a stone in Zion, a chosen and precious cornerstone, and the one who trusts in him will never be put to shame.”    (1 Peter 2:4)

Rebellion

REBELLION

 

DEFINITIONRebellion is opposition towards a person or group in authority and a refusal to obey rules or normal standards of behavior.  Biblically, it is opposition to God’s authority, His Word, and God-ordained authorities.

FACTS ABOUT REBELLION:

Rebellion occurs for various reasons.  The most common is that people want to be in control of their own lives and do what they desire. They do not want to live by God’s mandates.  Children often rebel because they do not want to abide by their parents’ rules.  A rebellious spirit can also develop when someone in authority over you is wrong or you think they are wrong.  Rebellion also results from not understanding God’s structure of submission.  (See also the topic of  “Submission” in this database.)

Rebellion is sin.  Rebellion is a serious sin, considered as the sin of witchcraft (1 Samuel 15:23).

Rebellion was instigated by Satan.  He was a rebellious angel who sinned against God and was instrumental in the first rebellion of mankind in the garden of Eden.  He still works through a spirit of rebellion.

DEALING WITH  REBELLION:

Admit rebellion and ask forgiveness.  Rebellion is sin, and as in the case of all sin, you must admit it to God and ask forgiveness.  You may also need to ask forgiveness of a parent, employer, spiritual leader, or someone else in authority against whom you have rebelled.

Ask God to put a new heart within you.  Ask for a heart that is pliable and submissive to His will:  “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws”  (Ezekiel 36:26-27).

Train your children in the ways of the Lord.  Discipline them to obey you and God at an early age and raise them up knowing the Word of God  (Proverbs 22:6 and 2 Timothy 3:15).  These practices will prevent rebelliousness later in life.

 If an adult child rebels, continue to love them and pray for them without condoning their sin.  Do not feel that you have failed as a parent if your adult child rebels.  There comes an age of accountability where each person must choose whether or not they will serve God.  Children sometimes rebel because of  the influence of  unbelieving associates.  Pray for such negative relationships in their lives to be broken.

Claim this promise and personalize it for your children:And all your [spiritual] children shall be disciples [taught by the Lord and obedient to His will], and great shall be the peace and undisturbed composure of your children” (Isaiah 54:13, AMP).

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT REBELLION:

Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. (Exodus 20:12)

Only do not rebel against the Lord… (Numbers 14:9a)

Cursed is the man who dishonors his father or his mother. (Deuteronomy 27:16)

Far be it from us to rebel against the Lord and turn away from him today by building an altar for burnt offerings, grain offerings and sacrifices, other than the altar of the Lord our God that stands before his tabernacle. (Joshua 22:29)

But if you do not obey the Lord, and if you rebel against his commands, his hand will be against you, as it was against your fathers. (1 Samuel 12:15)

For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry.  (1 Samuel 15:23)

Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. (Proverbs 1:8)

My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father, the son he delights in. (Proverbs 3:11-12)

A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother. (Proverbs 10:1)

A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not listen to rebuke. (Proverbs 13:1)

He who scorns instruction will pay for it, but he who respects a command is rewarded. (Proverbs 13:13)

A fool spurns his father’s discipline, but whoever heeds correction shows prudence. (Proverbs 15:5)

A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish man despises his mother. (Proverbs 15:20)

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding. (Proverbs 15:32)

To have a fool for a son brings grief; there is no joy for the father of a fool. (Proverbs 17:21)

A foolish son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the one who bore him. (Proverbs 17:25)

He who robs his father and drives out his mother is a son who brings shame and disgrace. (Proverbs 19:26)

Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right. (Proverbs 20:11)

Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old. (Proverbs 23:22)

Fear the Lord and the king, my son, and do not join with the rebellious. (Proverbs 24:21)

But these people have stubborn and rebellious hearts; they have turned aside and gone away.

They do not say to themselves, ‘Let us fear the Lord our God, who gives autumn and spring rains in season, who assures us of the regular weeks of harvest.’  Your wrongdoings have kept these away; your sins have deprived you of good.  (Jeremiah 5:23-25)

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.  (Ezekiel 36:26-27)

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. (Ephesians 6:1)

(See also “Submission”, “Authority”, and “Chastening And Discipline” in this database.)

Purpose and Goals

PURPOSE AND GOALS

DEFINITIONA sense of purpose is having a resolve and plan to accomplish a goal or objective.  For a believer, purposes and goals are actually “faith statements” of what they believe God wants them to accomplish through their lives in the future.

FACTS ABOUT PURPOSE AND GOALS:

Every believer is a steward of resources.  God has given you talents, spiritual gifts, abilities, material resources, and finances.  It is required that you are faithful in managing these resources.

Purpose helps you understand your part in God’s plan.  You will know specifically what God wants you to do with your life and ministry.

Goals help you properly manage your resources to accomplish your purpose.  Knowing your purpose and formulating goals to reach that purpose permit you to properly manage the resources with which God entrusts you.

Jesus knew His purpose and goals.  He said:  “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed,  to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor”  (Luke 4:18-19).

Jesus encouraged planning.  To illustrate this, He used an example of building, saying that one should make sure they have proper resources to finish before beginning.  He also used the example of a ruler going to war who wisely prepares before the battle (Luke 14:28-32).

Goals have positive benefits. Planning permits you to establish priorities for your life and ministry, make proper decisions, and act rather than react to circumstances.  Setting goals makes you accountable for your resources, permits wise use of what you possess, eliminates confusion, and provides standards by which to evaluate your progress.

Goals are faith statements.  The Holy Spirit within has the mind of God and reveals God’s plans and purposes to you.  When you pray, study God’s Word, and plan under the inspiration of the  Holy Spirit, it is a productive spiritual activity that results in faith statements concerning what you plan to do with the help of the Lord.

Plans fail because of lack of vision, lack of training, improper use of resources, lack of prayer, unclear plans, fear, doubt, procrastination, slothfulness, and disobedience.  People also fail to revise plans as necessary and fail to learn from experience.  Plans also fail because of  lack of attention to detail, lack of leadership, and inadequate funding and workers.  You never truly fail, however, until you stop trying, and it is always too soon to quit!

When you aim at nothing, you hit it every time!  If you have no purpose or goals, you will achieve nothing.

DEALING WITH  PURPOSE AND GOALS:

Pray for direction regarding your specific purpose in God’s plan and the goals to set to achieve that purpose.  Always make sure your plans are in harmony with God’s will.

Write out your purpose and goals.  The prophet Habakkuk said to “write the vision and make it plain” (Habakkuk 2:2).    David wrote out the plans for the tabernacle.  He said:  “All this,” David said, “I have in writing from the hand of the Lord upon me, and he gave me understanding in all the details of the plan.” (1 Chronicles 28:19).

Clearly state your goals.  State what you are going to do, how you are going to do it, and by when it should be accomplished.  If your goals require finances, include a plan as to how these will be obtained. By clearly stating your goals, you can evaluate whether or not you achieve them and how they contribute to your specific purpose.

Organize your goals.  Some will be immediate goals, while others will be long-range goals.  For example, if you want to go to Mexico as a medical missionary, that is a long-term plan.  Some short-term goals to achieve that purpose would be to study Spanish, take medical classes, raise support, gather supplies, etc.

Be flexible and open to change.  The Apostle Paul planned to go to Asia, but was redirected by the Holy Spirit to go to Macedonia (Acts 16:7-10).  God’s plans and purposes may be different than what you think, so be open to His divine appointments and adjustments to your schedule.

Evaluate your goals.  Did you do what you said you would do?  Do you need to adjust the goals you have or set new ones?  You may need to change the completion date, readjust the budget, or change the short-term steps leading to the long-term goal.

Acknowledge the sovereignty of God.  Make your plans acknowledging that “if it is God’s will” you will accomplish them.  (James 4:13-15).  The Bible is clear that: “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps” (Proverbs 16:9).

Realize that planning is a continuous cycle. Throughout life, you should continue to make plans by faith and set and adjust goals to accomplish your divine purpose.

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT PURPOSE AND GOALS:

“All this,” David said, “I have in writing from the hand of the Lord upon me, and he gave me understanding in all the details of the plan.”  (1 Chronicles 28:19)

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.  (Psalm 119:105)

The Lord will fulfill [his purpose] for me; your love, O Lord, endures forever–do not abandon the works of your hands.  (Psalm 138:8)

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.  (Proverbs 16:3)

In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps. (Proverbs 16:9)

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

The Lord Almighty has sworn, “Surely, as I have planned, so it will be, and as I have purposed, so it will stand.”  (Isaiah 14:24)

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord,” they are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  (Jeremiah 29:11  TLB)

Then the Lord replied: “Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it.”  (Habakkuk 2:2)

“The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed,  to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor”  (Luke 4:18-19)

Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it?  For if he lays the foundation and is not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule him,  saying, ‘This fellow began to build and was not able to finish.’ Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Will he not first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand?  If he is not able, he will send a delegation while the other is still a long way off and will ask for terms of peace.  (Luke 4:28-32)

If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw,  his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man’s work. (1 Corinthians 3:12-13)

But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.  (1 Corinthians 14:40)

…Live purposefully and worthily and accurately…Making the very most of the time–buying up each opportunity–because the days are evil.  (Ephesians 5:15-16, AMP)

Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.”  Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.  Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” (James 4:13-15)

Study further on planning:

-In Genesis l-3, God planned all creation, made plans for man, and revealed His plan for salvation.

-Noah made plans to build the ark:  Genesis 6.

-Abraham set objectives for his servant, Eleazar:  Genesis 24.

-Joseph planned for the years of famine:  Genesis 41.

-Moses was given a plan to deliver Israel from slavery:  Exodus 3-6.

-The plan for the tabernacle was quite detailed:  Exodus 24:12-40:38.

-In the book of Numbers, plans are made to number the people (1:1-54) and arrange the camp (2:1-34).

-Joshua made detailed plans to lead Israel to conquer and divide their promised land: Book of Joshua.

-In the book of Judges, God gave numerous plans for deliverance.

-Ruth followed the plan of Naomi in regards to Boaz: Book of Ruth.

-David prepared to kill the giant:  1 Samuel 17.

-King Hezekiah prepared  plans to unify Israel, repair the temple, and build a water system for Jerusalem: 2 Chronicles 28-31; 2 Kings 16-20.

-Nehemiah made plans to rebuild the wall:  Book of Nehemiah.

-The Old Testament prophets revealed God’s plans for the nations.

-Jesus:  The Gospels are filled with statements made  by Jesus about His purpose and plans to fulfill God’s will for His life and ministry.  Jesus also communicated this

purpose and plans to His followers and to all believers in general.

-The Apostle Paul made plans:  If he had no plans then the Holy Spirit could not have

changed them as indicated in Acts 16:6-10.

-The book of Revelation reveals God’s plans for the future.

Read about planning in the book of Proverbs. See Proverbs 13:16; 14:8; 15:22; 16:3,9; 24:3-4; 29:18.

Jesus had a clear understanding of His part in God’s purpose and plans.  Study the following references:

Matthew:  5:17; 8:3,7; 9:13; 10:34-35; 13:41-42; 15:24; 18:11,20; 19:28-29; 20:18-19,28; 21:13; 24:35; 25:31; 26:24,29,32,39,64

Mark: 1:38; 2:17; 10:33-34,45; 14:21

Luke:  2:49; 4:18-19,43; 5:32; 9:22,56; 11:49; 12:51; 13:32-33; 19:5,10; 22:37,69; 24:44,46-47

John:  3:16-17; 4:34; 5:30,43; 6:37-40,51; 7:16,33; 8:26,29,49-50;  9:4, 38-39; 10:10,16-18; 12:24-27,32,46,49-50; 13:5; 14:2,16-18; 18:36; 16:12,22,25; 18:37; 12:24-27; Study all of John chapter 17 as it communicates much about His purpose.

Study the purposes established for followers of Jesus.

Matthew: 7:33; 9:37-38; 10:7-8,38-39; 16:24-25; 28:18-20

Mark: 1:17; 16:15-18; 8:34-35

Luke:  5:10; 9:2; 10:2-9; 12:29; 14:26-27,33; 22:29; 24:46-49

John:  4:35; 6:27; 15:16; 20:21

Acts: 1:4-5,8

(For further instruction regarding purpose and goals, obtain the Harvestime International Network publication entitled “Management By Objectives” available at: http://www.harvestime.org)

Promiscuity

PROMISCUITY

 

(Adultery, Fornication, Premarital Sex, Prostitution)

DEFINITION:  Promiscuity is defined as having multiple sexual partners.  Another biblical name for it is fornication.  Prostitution–performing sexual favors for financial gain or using someone else to do this–is included in this definition, as are premarital sex and adultery.

FACTS ABOUT PROMISCUITY:

Promiscuity is sin.  Fornication, adultery, prostitution, and all sexual relationships outside of marriage are addressed in the Bible as sin.   In some cultures, standards of morality have been lowered to where sex outside of marriage is acceptable, but God’s Word does not change.  Sexual promiscuity in any form is sin.

Believers must obey the laws of the land.  You cannot just live with someone and claim you are married in God’s sight (Romans 13:1).  You must be legally married according to the mandates of the government under whose authority you live.

The biblical mandate is that sex is to be confined to marriage“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…” (Hebrews 13:4a).  The world’s view of sex is not the biblical viewThe world’s view is that sex is for personal pleasure and is okay between two consenting adults.  The biblical view is that sex is to be reserved only for marriage and any other type of sexual relationship is wrong.  Sexual relations within a marriage are fulfilling and unite a couple in a special bond of intimacy.  Sexual relationships outside of marriage are destructive.

Promiscuity affects your health.  Diseases are transmitted through promiscuity, including some for which there is no known cure.

Promiscuity causes negative emotions.  Regret, shame, guilt, and emotional pain all result from promiscuous sexual relationships.

Sexual sins weaken the marriage covenant.  They destroy trust and often lead to divorce.

God will judge the sexually promiscuous.  “…God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4b).

DEALING WITH  PROMISCUITY:

Avoid temptation.  Avoid compromising situations that put you in a place of temptation, alone with a handsome man or beautiful woman.  If you are never alone with someone of the opposite sex who is not your spouse, then promiscuity will probably not become an issue.  Sexual relationships often begin when with emotional ties that develop when men and women spend extended time alone in working or social environments.

Ask forgiveness of God.  Promiscuity is sin, and as with all sin, must be confessed and forgiven by God.

Seek forgiveness from those you have wronged.  If you are married, you have sinned against your mate by your promiscuous behavior.  You have also sinned against the person with whom you have had sex outside of marriage.  Humbly ask their forgiveness.

Break ungodly relationships.  Break promiscuous relationships with your adulterous partners.  Make a total break:  No more communication in any form.  “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.  Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters,  says the Lord Almighty”  (2 Corinthians 6:17-18).

Bind the spirit of lust.  At the root of adultery, fornication, prostitution, and premarital sex is lust.  Bind the spirit of lust from operating in your life.

Do a spiritual housecleaning.  Get rid of any erotic materials whether it be books, pictures, movies, Internet sites, or sex toys.

Have a medical examination.  Be sure you have not contracted sexually transmitted diseases.  If you have, then you must notify your previous sex partners.

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS ABOUT PROMISCUITY:

You shall not commit adultery.  (Exodus 20:14)

Do not have sexual relations with your neighbor’s wife and defile yourself with her. (Leviticus 18:20)

Do not degrade your daughter by making her a prostitute, or the land will turn to prostitution and be filled with wickedness. (Leviticus 19:29)

You shall not commit adultery. (Deuteronomy 5:18)

Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. (Proverbs 6:25-26)

Do not let your heart turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng.  Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death. (Proverbs 7:25-27)

For a prostitute is a deep pit and a wayward wife is a narrow well. (Proverbs 23:27)

A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, but a companion of prostitutes squanders his wealth.  (Proverbs 29:3)

You are to abstain from … sexual immorality. (Acts 15:29)

Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.  And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.(1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. (1 Corinthians 6:13)

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with the spirit.  Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.  (1 Corinthians 6:15-20)

We should not commit sexual immorality, as some of them did–and in one day twenty-three thousand of them died.  (1 Corinthians 10;8)

The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. (Galatians 5:19-21)

I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5:21)

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5:3)

For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person–such a man is an idolater– has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5)

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6)

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4)

But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars–their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.  (Revelation 21:8)

(See also the related topics of “Sexuality”, “Adultery”, “Homosexuality”, and “Incest” in this database.)